Just Say No: Wedding Trends That Gotta Go

Hey Y’all! This is my first post since I joined you fellow brides-to-be & *wedding planners of America*

Following the engagement, I was surprised at the amount of people who asked for the date & location (hours after I said yes) – many people assume that because I blog weddings that I’ve got mine all figured out. NOPE! It’s so different when you’re planning your own wedding. You only get one shot (unless Gehrig realizes just how many homeless dogs I plan on bringing home..then he might jump ship – but) you want every detail to be perfect. The only details that have been set in stone so far are

1. I will be wearing a Hayley Paige gown

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2. Our boys (the dogs) will be wearing navy tuxedos to match their dad

The major deets are still TBA, but as I continue researching the cutest wedding ideas, themes and decor, I can’t help but make mental notes of what I don’t want! Here are some trends that I’m so over:

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transparent corset gowns

{à la Pnina Tornai}

*insert retching sounds*

If y’all have ever watched an episode of Say Yes to the Dress, you’ll know that Pnina Tornai is a coveted designer who creates intricate couture gowns. Brides are always fawning over see-through bodices and seeking out her sexy details. Personally, I’ve never understood the want to feel overly ~sexy~ on your wedding day – I mean you’re celebrating your commitment to one person in front of your family and friends! BTW – after digging into that delicious buffet, who wants their stomach on full display? Yes to feeling beautiful, but no to oddly placed cut-outs, plunging v-necks and transparent corset gowns.

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geode cakes

My question is: who overlooked this design & allowed it to be photographed? Geodes have been in for like two years now, the gorgeous jewel tones & good vibes that accompany these pretty little rock formations have made them a big influence on 2016 wedding decor – however, the cake design? Eeeek. I’m not getting a tranquil, earthy vibe, I’m getting a gynecologist appointment vibe.

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sequin bridesmaids dresses

Didn’t we agree to leave sequins back in 2015? Sequin bridesmaids dresses were a huge hit as metallic palettes had their moment, but please – no more disco ball bridesmaids. If you want your gals to stand out, use patterns or mismatched dresses instead!

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DIY candy bars

“After six mixed drinks & four hours of dancing, I love grabbing a nice cellophane bag full of Peach Rings to satisfy my hunger!”

– Said no one ever.

Listen friends – your guests don’t want a customized paper brown bag filled with Jordan almonds and lemon heads. Skip the overdone candy bar trend and treat your guests to an assortment of mini desserts! Red velvet cupcakes > rock candy – I promise.

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brooch bouquets

I am so annoyed at whoever told thousands of brides that a pile of mismatched, vintage BROOCHES was a better choice than a bouquet of fresh flowers. First off, how dare you. Second off, how heavy does that look!? Third – c’mon. Tacky + gaudy don’t even begin to cover it.

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massive bridal parties

Omg enough with the 28 bridesmaids + groomsmen! Bridal parties should be your closest friends and family – not your twelve sorority sisters, your great grand little, your fiance’s brother’s girlfriend, your friend from summer camp, and your new neighbor. This is a special position reserved for those you hold near and dear to your heart. Am I just jealous that I only have 2.5 friends? Maybe. But everyone invited to your wedding should feel honored that they were picked to share this moment with you – you don’t need an excessive amount of ‘maids.

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weird choreographed swing dance numbers

You know what’s awesome? Intimate, slow & smiley first dances. Also adored? Hilarious attempts at line dancing with your sweaty family members and kids. Weird and awkward for everyone to watch? Those overly choreographed random dance numbers that some brides and grooms decide to throw in to *impress* their guests. I’ve seen a few dance routines that ended in fumbling feet, missteps and angry whispering in one another’s ears while two very obvious untalented dancers try to blow their guests away. The only result is a lot of cringing and sympathy applause.

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koozie favors

Maybe it’s just because my fiancé & I aren’t big drinkers, but i’m not into these. A koozie favor has a 5% chance of living longer than 3 months before it meets it’s ultimate demise {in the dumpster} Go for something edible, unique or skip it all together.

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To each their own – what’s your least fav current wedding trend? Comment below!

{IMAGES: The Knot, Style Me Pretty Vault, Julie Paisley Photography}

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Budget Woes: Who Pays For What?

All aboard the Awkward express!

Following the rush of excitement that comes along with the engagement and initial planning, that slightly unpleasant conversation is lurking in the shadows, waiting to jump out at you & your future Mother-In-Law at brunch {over a few too many mimosas!} It’s not the most fun topic of conversation, but figuring out who is contributing to your wedding (and how much) is vital to planning your wedding budget. Use this MMW guide and turn the ol’ tricky task into just another easy assignment:

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THE BRIDE PAYS FOR:

  • The groom’s wedding ring
  • The groom’s wedding gift
  • Bridesmaids’ gifts
  • Personal stationery

THE GROOM PAYS FOR:

  • The bride’s engagement & wedding ring
  • The bride’s wedding gift
  • The groomsmen’s gifts
  • The marriage license
  • Clergy/judge fee
  • The boutonnieres
  • Transportation
  • The bride’s bouquet

THE BRIDE’S FAMILY PAYS FOR:

  • The invitations
  • Services of the bridal consult
  • Wedding gift for the newlyweds
  • The bride’s gown & accessories
  • The church/reception music
  • Flowers for the church/venue
  • Bridesmaids’ bouquets
  • Transportation for the bridal party
  • The reception fee
  • Catering
  • The wedding cake
  • Gratuities
  • Photography
  • Videography
  • Their own attire
  • Their own lodging

THE GROOM’S FAMILY PAYS FOR:

  • Their own attire
  • Their own loding
  • The rehearsal dinner/luncheon
  • A wedding gift for the newlyweds

THE BRIDESMAIDS PAY FOR:

  • Their dresses + accessories
  • Transportation to and from the city (where the wedding is being held)
  • The bride’s gift
  • Bridal shower or luncheon
  • Bachelorette party

THE GROOMSMEN PAY FOR:

  • Their suits/tuxedos + accessories
  • Transportation to and from the city (where the wedding is being held)
  • The groom’s gift
  • Bachelor party

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THERE ARE SOME THINGS TO CONSIDER BEFORE ASSUMING THE SELECTED PARTIES WILL PAY FOR SAID ITEMS – ARE THEY FINANCIALLY STABLE {CURRENTLY EMPLOYED/NOT IN DEBT} + WILLING? CONSIDER WHAT YOU AND YOUR BEAU-TO-BE CAN PAY FOR YOURSELVES, THEN DISCUSS THE DETAILS WITH YOUR WEDDING PARTY. AT THE END OF THE DAY, A HAPPY FAMILY IS WORTH MORE THAN EXPENSIVE CENTERPIECES. NEVER LET EXPENSES COME BETWEEN LOVED ONES! FACTOR IN YOUR OWN UNIQUE WEDDING EXPENSES AS YOU GO.

HAPPY PLANNING
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Choosing the Perfect Venue: Quick & Easy Questions

Before you say yes to the dress or set a date, you’ll want to book your venue! Find the perfect setting for your big day and then make sure to ask the coordinators these essential venue questions:

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“How many guests can this sucker hold?”

Venue capacity should be one of your first questions. This will lay the ground rules for making your guest list! Are you thinking of inviting 200? Always add 10-15 spots on top of your original number ( ya know, for your mom’s coworker and the groom’s high school baseball coach, etc.) Ask if the venue’s guest capacity will change once all the tables are set up. It’s a great idea to ask for a portfolio of photos and layout options so you can envision your wedding and ensure the space meets your needs.

“When is the deposit due & what is your cancellation policy?”

*cue the groom’s heart attack*

Figure out when the deposit is due, then the full balance.  Also, breaking news: life is unpredictable. If for any reason (god forbid) you had to cancel – you’ll want to know if the deposit is refundable or the latest date that you could cancel and get your money back.

“His friends like to drink. A lot. And do parkour.”

You can be blunt and say this or simply ask if the venue’s staff has health and safety training. You’d be surprised how many receptions T.A.M. (techniques of alcohol management) has saved. It’s also a good idea to inquire about CPR services and first aid.

“What is your bar policy?”

This is when you’ll learn about the venue’s options for an open bar/cash bar/etc. Consider your preferences, get a menu and decide if they have everything you’re looking for (including frozen drinks, the wine selection, beer of choice and non-alcoholic beverages!)

“Aside from the event room, what other spaces will we have access to?”

This includes the bridal suite and places to take photographs. You also want to determine if there are enough bathrooms and parking spaces for your guests.

“Let’s see that menu!”

Do you want to design your custom menu or lay out a buffet of options? Discuss the dinner possibilities and selections/variety. They should be flexible and eager to work with you to plan the perfect dinner plan. A build your own mac + cheese bar, sautéed asparagus and filet? Add Meg to your guest list, thanks.

“Do you provide any special amenities?”

Secondary food services, complimentary coffee and mints seem like the most minuscule of details, but the little stuff is what sets apart the wedding venue from your list of other options.

“Do you offer on-site coordination services?”

Find out who will be in charge at the venue, if they will be available to handle guest needs and properly host the event. The answer to this question is super important! Rachel at The Watson House may offer to stay behind the scenes and assist with minor issues, while Brittney at Newport Country Club is willing to help with everything from parking services to helping the bride pee. Decide what you’re looking for and then get the deets.

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Tour a variety of venues, take photos & most importantly: ask questions! Setting the scene for your big day is a super fun way to kick off the planning. Enjoy every second of it!

{IMAGES: Bedell Cellars, Erich McVey Photography}

The MMW Guide to Garters

You (awkwardly) wore one to prom and you’ll pick one out for your big day – but what’s the deal with those little frilly thigh accessories?

ORIGIN

The little piece of lace dates back hundreds of years ago to those good ‘ol ancient superstitions (and pretty much any bride’s worst nightmare.) It was believed that owning a piece of the wedding gown was lucky and would bring wealth. This would incentivize guests to tackle the bride and rip off a piece of the dress! Brides wised up and began carrying a piece of their gowns to gift a lucky guest instead of waiting to be attacked at the reception. This turned into the delicate little accessory we see today.

Now, the groom is the only one who should remove the garter from the bride. When she tosses the bouquet, he throws the garter and the enthused recipients will be the next to marry (not necessarily each other, but hey…ya never know!)

HOW TO STYLE

The original reason for wearing a garter was to hold up stockings. Garters are usually sold in sets so that a bride can wear one on each leg and choose to keep one and allow the groom to throw one. There’s no set rule as to which leg gets to rock the garter, but brides usually choose to wear it on their dominate side. Place your garter just above the knee, not too high (avoid my naive prom-going self from 2010, I hiked it up to my hip not knowing what it was for then gawked at my friends taking photos with theirs since I had no idea what it was for..eek.)

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Picking your Garter

Garters have become waaay more elegant over the past couple decades. Many designers make custom garters depending on what the bride wants. Do you want it to match your gown, show off your personality or be your “something blue?” While satin was once a popular design, lace, tulle and silver gemstones have taken over as the popular garter fabrics.

Keep in mind that you’ll be wearing this throughout your wedding day – for photos and the traditional take-off, so pick whatever you’ll feel most comfortable in!

MY FAVS

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SIMPLE LACE – RAGGED DIAMOND $23.99

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DELICATE DECOR – MELINDA ROSE $85

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MONOGRAMMED DETAIL – SOUTHERN EVER AFTER $25

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ENCRUSTED ELEGANCE – GARTER QUEEN $60

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LIGHTLY LAYERED – DAVIE AND CHIYO $22

THE TOSS

Okay y’all – as an adolescent wedding guest (and even now) I cringe at the weird, mildly drunk “sexy dance” that grooms often engage in while taking off the garter. Imagine your new husband sulking underneath your gown in front of your family, friends and grandparents while Wild Thang plays in the background!?

*dry heaves*

 You can forgo the whole “removing” part and just hand your groom the garter to fling to a lucky groomsmen. After you toss the bouquet, award the winning recipients with their own custom bottles of wine or beer – SO much better than a pre-owned sweaty piece of lace. My absolute favorite garter toss idea?

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Yeah I’m kind of biased, but send the garter off with a NFL football! A fun activity, a more accurate toss and a cool souvenir.

AS WITH ANY WEDDING FACET, CHOOSING YOUR GARTER IS AN OPPORTUNITY TO INFUSE YOUR PERSONALITY & STYLE INTO A FUN ACCESSORY! AWKWARD OR AWESOME, ENJOY YOUR GARTER TOSS AS ONE OF THE LIGHTER MOMENTS OF THE DAY.

{PHOTOGRAPHY: Caroline Lima, Thecablokkfotolab, Lauren Fair, Marissa Lambert, Amalie Orrange}

 

Honoring Your Late Loved Ones

“The ones we love don’t go away, they walk behind us every day. Unseen, unheard but always near, still loved, still missed & very dear.”

Many brides can attest to the painful realization that at least one of their loved ones will not be able to attend the wedding. On your big day, you can focus on the happiness surrounding you and your husband-to-be and honor your late loved ones – who will without a doubt help celebrate in spirit. Read on to find sentimental inspiration for honoring your angels:

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Dress Details

Have your alterations specialist stitch a piece of your loved one’s clothing on the inside of your gown. This will ensure that you have them with you every step down the aisle. Bonus: your “something borrowed” is extra special.

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Reserved & Remembered

Seat a framed photo of your loved one with a bouquet of their favorite flowers front and center at your ceremony – their presence will be felt and honored respectively.

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In Memory & Celebration

Similar to the framed photo, you can reserve a front row seat with a sign and a special object that meant a lot to the person.

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A Sentimental Accessory

The groom can pay homage to a late loved one by framing their photo and attaching it to his boutonniere. What could be more special than having them close to his heart?

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Charming Memories

The bride can also bring her late loved ones to the ceremony by securing her bouquet with black and white framed photo charms. Many brides have used this idea to walk with their dads down the aisle.

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A Balloon Release

Following the ceremony, after the reception or during a scheduled moment of your wedding day, release balloons (or butterflies) as a special expression of love and gratitude towards your guests in heaven.

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A Sweet Shrine

Dedicate a special area or table to your loved ones by placing framed photos, flowers and candles. If your late loved ones played a large role in your life, your immediate family will definitely appreciate the gesture and enjoy taking a moment to remember their family or friends.

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A Lantern Lighting

A burning candle or lantern can be lit in memory of your loved one – it’s an endearing symbol of their presence and love living on and attending your big day.

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Dedicated Donations

I’ve said it a hundred times and I’ll say it again – many guests would appreciate a donation to the charity of your choice over a refrigerator magnet or another customized koozie. You can donate the money you would’ve used for favors to a charity that represents your loved ones or helped them through a difficult time.

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A Commemorative Toast

My favorite! Some couples have asked that guests take a shot, share a cigar or enjoy a special dessert in honor of their late loved ones. This is a such a sweet way to highlight an element of your loved one’s personality and their favorite things. It also allows all your guests to participate, even if they didn’t know your loved one, they can still take part in a respective moment of remembrance.

Forever with you, always in your heart. Honor them by celebrating their life and your love.

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{Photography: Sawyer Baird Photography}

Pantone’s 2017 Color of the Year

A new year = a fresh take on color schemes for your wedding! Marsala & accented pink tones are a thing of the past – this year, it’s all about

GREENERY

& COOL JEWEL HUES

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You can check out Pantone’s entire collection {featuring Greenery} here, but of the 10 palettes, I’m forecasting “Fathomless” colors to make their debut in weddings across the nation this Spring. These versatile shades go perfectly with metallic accents or black and white staple colors. Considering “Fathomless” for your color scheme? Check out this array of natural-colored inspiration!

PERFECT FOR A MOUNTAINSIDE WEDDING OR SPRING NUPTIALS – ADD SOME NATURAL BRIGHTS TO YOUR BIG DAY!

{PHOTOS BY: ROC, SAWYER BIRD PHOTOGRAPHY, A VINTAGE AFFAIR, MICHELLE LANG PHOTOGRAPHY, SIX SENS, JOSE VILLA, CHARLA STOREY, AMY OSABA}

Reception Style: Dessert Display Inspo

After the I Do’s, the first dance and the speeches, everyone’s looking forward to the sweet treat waiting for them at the end of the night! Go beyond the slice of cake – check out these dessert displays!

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A S’MORES STAND

This is essential for a backyard/lakeside reception – especially a venue with a gorgeous fire pit. Allow your guests to enjoy their favorite outdoor dessert!

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How fun and whimsical is this? Stock up on the bride & groom’s favorite ice cream flavors for cocktail hour or following a garden-party buffet!

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THE CANDY BAR

A classic candy bar lets your guests fill up on their favorite sweets and doubles as the perfect favor to send them home with. Add customized mason jars or monogrammed canvas pouches for added charm.

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A MILK & COOKIES STAND

Conclude your reception with an all American classic – the chocolate chip cookie! With glasses of milk (strawberry, chocolate & 2%) to pair, this is one fresh & flavorful option.

piebarA PIE BAR

A pie bar is the perfect complement to a mid-summer wedding or a rustic-chic barn bash. Give your guests an array of goodness by displaying them on vintage pie stands! You can ask your groom-to-be, your bridal party and your parents for pie flavor suggestions.

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A DONUT WALL

One of my favorite early 2017 trends – a wall of glorious donuts. When you’re out on the dance floor, the last thing you want to do is try to juggle a piece of cake and a plastic fork. Your guest will love being able to pick their flavors right off the display and keep the party going!

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DIY ICE CREAM SANDWICH STATION

Cookies + (Ice) Cream = 

If you prefer your guests stay seated during dinner & dessert, consider passing out individual ice cream sandwich stations! Provide cookies, toppings and pre-cut ice cream slices so guests can get creative with their sweets.

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A COFFEE BAR

Are you and your significant other a pair of latte lovin’ baristas? A super cute way to top off your reception dinner is with a decorated coffee bar! K-cups, creamer and sweeteners can be stocked – along with custom favor mugs or to-go cups.

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CUPCAKE TIERS

Everyone loves cupcakes – you can’t go wrong with these delectable minis. You can ask your bakery to include a variety of popular flavors so everyone’s sweet tooth is satisfied. The display possibilities are virtually endless so it’s a perfect dessert option for any theme or venue!

cakepopcastleA CAKE POP COLLECTION

Another super functional way to pass out sugar! Aside from cake pops being being so frickin’ cute, they are fabulous because they’re so easy to eat and guests won’t need extra plates/utensils/napkins to enjoy them. Less waste + less clean up + more money to put towards other things (like shoes) = one happy bride.

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DESSERT IS A MAJOR HIGHLIGHT OF THE RECEPTION – SERVE IT UP IN STYLE &

TREAT YO SELF.

{Photo by: Christine Farah Photography}

You, Me & Unity: Trendy Ceremony Ideas

The entire reason for your wedding ceremony is to come together and officiate two lives becoming one.

In traditional ceremonies, the couple would take two tapered candle sticks and light a unity candle to represent their vows of commitment. Thanks to Pinterest, new brides and grooms have taken this opportunity to make their unity ceremonies unique to their own love story. Check out some of my favorite ideas that envision a trendy take on this tradition:

TYING THE KNOT

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Planning some nautical nuptials? Consider tying a fisherman’s knot with your beau-to-be. It represents two beings uniting & being able to weather any storm. The idea goes beyond two pieces of material coming together, though – knots become even stronger under pressure. The rope itself would break before the fisherman’s knot comes undone, symbolizing your love and strength through any trial or tribulation. Frame or hang your knot in your home to always remind you of the promise you made.

You’ll Need: Knot-Tying Knowledge + Fisherman’s Rope

 

PLANNING A TREE PLANTING

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This tradition is so sweet. The couple may pot a plant, or  (a safer option for that beautiful white gown) simply water a tree that will later be planted in their backyard. They say “life without love is like a tree without blossoms.” By conjoining your love and effort, something beautiful will grow. This is perfect for nature lovers and eco-friendly minded couples alike! Will you plant an orange tree or a fir? Pot your tree in soil from your hometowns or your favorite places in the world.

You’ll Need: A Tree of Your Choice + Soil + A Pot + Watering Can

 

YOUR SAND IN MARRIAGE

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Merging sands is a touching unity ceremony alternative with a special focus on family. By pouring in two different colors of sand, you’re symbolizing blending into one another’s families and creating your own. Choose your favorite colors or sand from your favorite beaches and pour two separate vials into a glass photo frame or a larger vase. This is ideal for a beach-side big day!

You’ll Need: Three Vases + Two Vials of Sand

 

WINE BLENDING BLISS

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A super unique new unity trend involves blending red and white wines! This is a sentimental ceremony for a couple that is living proof of the opposites attract phenomenon. The bride and groom each choose a wine {red + white} with some sort of significance – maybe the year, vineyard or simply the taste. By blending the wines, it would be impossible for either liquid to go back to their original color or taste. This represents an unbreakable bond between two individuals that are now eternally one.

*Getting to drink mid-ceremony is just a tiny bonus

You’ll Need: Red Wine + White Wine + A Wine Decanter

 

Letters of Love

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What’s sweeter than white wine? The heartfelt words from your soul mate. During a love letter ceremony, the bride and groom write each other letters to open during their first argument. They each hammer a nail into a customized box that contains their love letters. The officiant advises the couple to open the box any time the newlyweds doubt their marriage and take time to reflect on what brought them together. It’s an ensuring way to seal your love into the ceremony and allow your written vows to outlast the day.

You’ll Need: Bride’s Love Letter + Groom’s Love Letter + A Box + Hammer + Nails

YOUR CEREMONY CAN BALANCE BETWEEN TRENDY & TRADITIONAL – NO MATTER WHAT UNITY CEREMONY YOU CHOOSE, YOUR LOVE AND LOYALTY FOR ONE ANOTHER WILL LIGHT THE WAY INTO A HAPPY MARRIAGE.

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{Photography: Sarah Jayne Photography, Hudson Couture, Pinterest}

From Miss to Mrs: Your Last Name Change Checklist

One of the biggest changes that comes after the vows? Your last name! Changing your last name isn’t the most exciting part of the process, but it’s one step closer to becoming a Mrs.! Follow my checklist below to ensure you’re prepared {& having fun along the way}

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1) Marriage License

First step is to have your official marriage license (or a copy from the Clerk’s office) sent to you – snazzy seal included.

2) Social Security Card

It’s time to apply for a new social security card! Make an account and then mail in your application for a new social security card via the SSA website.

3) License

Next step is changing your driver’s license at the DMV – i know, i know *eye roll* but I suggest stopping at your local Starbucks and having the barista write your new last name on your cup so you can admire it during the duration of waiting in line. Remember – you need to bring the certified marriage license, your old license, AND the new social security card (the most necessary form of identification!)

4) Bank Accounts

Did you agree to a joint bank account? (If so, congratulations! Your hubby must really trust that you won’t spend his life savings at Old Navy – good job!) Stop into your local branch with your new forms of identification – marriage license and driver’s license. Request a new debit card and new checks and to change the name on your account. When your new debit card arrives, promptly order this adorable custom cutting board featuring your new last name.

5) The Easy Stuff

Once steps 1-4 are complete, the rest of the process should be easy as pie. Simply call/email the following associations to begin the name change process:

  • Doctor’s Office

  • Post Office

  • School/Alumni Association

  • Gym

  • Electric Company

  • Credit Card Company

  • Voter’s Registration Office

  • Employer

  • Insurance Companies

  • Passport Office

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Will you be too busy sun tanning on your honey moon to worry about the name change? Go to Miss now Mrs. to easily change your last name for $29.95 – & lastly: congrats, newlywed!

{Photos by: Nicole Clarey Photography, Sierra Solis Photography}

Keeping the Kids Busy: & The Funnest Wedding Ever

One decision you’ll have to make as you narrow down your guest list: will your big day be child-friendly? Or should parents leave their little nose pickers at home?

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I kid. Get it?

You probably attended a wedding as a child and it probably felt like the longest day of your life. Dancing, cake & running a muck with your distant cousins? Awesome. But all that other “forever in matrimony” jazz? Not so much. As an adult, I’m sure you’ve had the pleasure of sitting one pew behind someone’s kid who either won’t stop staring at you or won’t stop wailing as the poor priest attempts to mutter through his lines – and God forbid a bride’s “I do!” moment is interrupted by the Minecraft theme song blaring through the church from a sticky iPad. These days, entertaining kiddos is easy and just as fun for you as it is for them! Jot down some ideas from this kid-friendly wedding day timeline. An engaged child is a happy child (who isn’t sticking their fingers in your cake!)

pre-ceremony

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Their mom already made them throw on an itchy suit or last year’s frilly Easter dress, so treat the kids from the get-go. Have them step up to the confetti bar and create their own masterpiece to toss in celebration as you exit the church!

during the ceremony

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During the ceremony, all you can ask for is silence. Create your own custom coloring book for the kids complete with a “decorate your own cake” page and “find the difference” activities. The only wailing and sniffling you’ll hear will be coming from your Mother-In-Law.

arriving at the reception

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Two words: bounce house.

This is such a fun way to allow the kids to exert some energy with their pals and the bride and groom! It also makes for some adorable photos. Photo-booth station 2.0!

reception activities

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Set up some carnivalesque games like a sack race, classic corn-hole, a hula hoop contest or ring toss that’s sure to keep the kids entertained (and most likely the groomsmen, too!)

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Wedding Piñata. YASSSSSSS.

Allow the youngsters to destroy THIS cake – fill it with the bride and groom’s favorite candy.

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Set aside a “kids only” zone featuring their very own teepee, tent or secluded area just for them to be as wild as they want! Picture an outdoor movie screening on a projector with a popcorn machine – you just turned YOUR best day ever into THEIR best day ever! Consider hiring a babysitter for the kids zone so that you (and their parents) can truly let loose and enjoy the festivities.

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THIS IS LIKE MY 24 YEAR OLD RECEPTION DREAM COME TRUE.

A video game station featuring DDR (or whatever the kids play these days) – this is a necessity for my future wedding as my nephews love themselves some gaming. You may want to roll this out later in the evening so the kids are still somewhat present during the reception.

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Feature a kid-friendly milk & cookies toast, waaay classier than the overdone non-alcoholic Shirley Temples.  A lot of these ideas are meant to separate the kids from the adults, but they still want to be included in parts of your wedding!

the send off

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Top off the night with a candy bar*! Include an eye-popping assortment of gum-balls, gummies, chocolates and rock candy. Sure, they might be going home bouncing off the walls, but their parents will be a little loopy too right?!

kids are the key to a light, fun & fabulous big day. by keeping them entertained, you’re ensuring an incredible wedding experience for you, them and their parents.

*meg’s modern weddings is not responsible for the actions and/or consequences of 6 year olds & sugar consumption